Do you plan on entering a new college semester soon? If so, then it’s likely you have a lot on your mind, from money to course load. If you will be living on campus, then you may also have some anxiety about your new roommate. That’s understandable, considering you will be spending a lot of time with this virtual stranger . . . and there is a lot that could go wrong with a bad match. Fortunately, you can help ease the transition by getting to know your roommate before the semester begins. Here’s how:
Make a phone call. You should do this as soon as possible after you get your roommate’s contact information. You don’t have to have a serious or drawn out conversation. Just call to introduce yourself and set up a time to talk more, or meet, before the semester begins. Remember that it is highly likely that both you and your roommate are antsy about the same things – leaving home, an unfamiliar campus, having a roommate, etc. – so don’t worry that you won’t have enough material for a conversation.
Coordinate living styles. Once you’ve broken the ice, you can delve into the logistics of living together. Before you move in, it is a good idea to spend some time talking with your new roommate about living style. Things to think about include cleanliness, noise, having company over, and possible scheduling conflicts. If you and your roommate express your preferences to each other and work out a feasible plan for meeting each other’s living style needs, then you’ve already taken a very important step towards living together comfortably, and before school even starts.
Use social media. One great way to get to know your roommate on a much more personal level without ever even meeting is to connect through social media. Reach out to your new roommate on sites like Facebook and Twitter and make it a point to communicate through those avenues regularly. You can learn a lot about a person through social networking sites, so this is a convenient and easy way to develop a virtual relationship with your roommate before you begin to establish a real-life relationship.
One thing to remember is that your college matched you for some specific reasons. While some college matching systems are more complex and targeted than others, you can be sure that there is some rhyme and reason to your college’s choice for your roommate. So relax a little, reach out to make contact, and accept that you will most likely be spending the next several months getting to know your college roommate. These tips will help you make the best of it.
About the Author: Ji Bonvillain used social media and the phone to contact her roommate before leaving for school. They used their time to get to know each other, compare college textbooks and prices, and to plan the decor for their room.